Tuesday, December 14, 2010
A VERY SAD EVENT
One of my clients committed suicide on Monday. He was in Cuba visiting his mother and hung himself in her home. It's very sad. He couldn't ever seem to find his place in the world. A very unhealthy relationship that produced a daughter he was kept from constantly; the desperation of not having anyone in this country - all his family is in Cuba.
He was unhappy while he was here - he wanted to be in Cuba with his family - and his desperation just grew while he was there because the distance from Miami just made it all seem worse (not only was his child gone but he couldn't find a job, was losing his home to foreclosure) - it just became too much. At first it just made me angry - such a cowardly thing to do! Hanging yourself in a closet while your mother is in the next room!! But then I just felt so much sadness for him!
He was very affectionate, very needy for love and attention. But he always managed to turn to people who used him and then discarded him like trash on the side of the road. He was unable to keep a job because there were days when all he could do was get out of bed. And there was nobody there to hold his hand - to let him know that although things seemed hopeless, they really weren't!! That when you feel like you are drowning you just have to BREATH - take life a day at a time - an hour at a time.
I am not saying it is not hard to lose your house. It has to be. But it's just a HOUSE - cement and mortar- just a place for you to live. Your HOME is what you take with you ANY WHERE you live! Does that makes sense to anyone? I would not be happy if I lost my house but I could rent an apartment and make it my HOME. We could go through a hurricane and lose all the material things we give so much damned importance to! They are just stuff.
There are so many people losing their homes right now. Losing their jobs. Unable to make ends meet.... It's a difficult time for this country. But THINGS are just that!! THINGS!!! A house does not make you who you are!!! It does not HOLD you! Yes, it's sad - it is!! But the WORST case scenario is that you rent an apartment - a hole in the wall even - and if you have your head and your heart in the right place that hole in the wall can become your HOME.
In my heart, a home is anywhere that I can sit with my children and have a hot chocolate; where my grand daughters can play with their legos; where my memories are created.
It's' a sad day when someone feels so lost that they hang themselves in a closet.
Posted by Elena at 12:56 PM