Thursday, September 18, 2014


Life has become so hectic.  So many things have happened over the past six months - some good - some not so good.  I miss blogging.  I miss the camaraderie of the blog, the blank page, the sharing.  So why have I not written?  Don't really know.  Just haven't felt like it I guess.

It's funny how you always put the things you enjoy most on the back burner when you are stressed or pressed for time.  We deprive ourselves of the things we enjoy and yet still find the time to do the things we don't.  How does that work?

Waking up this morning, in that space between drowsiness and wakefulness, I thought about the fact that I feel ..... I don't even know how to express it..... empty maybe?  Does that make sense?  Probably not.  I feel like there is something missing, that I am not living my "best life" - isn't that what all the psycho gurus call it?  But how to change it?  How do I live for "me" without feeling guilt or a sense of selfishness?

WAY too deep for so early in the morning, but these thoughts have been weighing on me.

My word for this year was PURPOSE.  I was determined to live every day this year with purpose - not just live a day at  time like petals we remove from a flower singing "he loves me, he loves me not".  But I have not done that at all.  I have not focused on goals to reach this year, I have not lived with purpose at all.

There is still a few months left of this year.  And I can always use the word again next year, but what good is the word when you don't live it?  When you don't get up each day and remind yourself of why you chose it in the first place.

The first mistake for me I think is that I have not journaled this year.  At all.  Journal therapy is something that has always tended to keep me on course.  A tether when I feel like I am going to just float away.  I love to write!  So what is wrong with me that I am not writing!?  It may be that everything and everyone else around me is SAPPING me of all energy, of all happiness, of all peace.


Sunday, July 20, 2014


OKAY, so I didn't come "right' back.  I can't believe I have not found the time to just sit down and WRITE - you would think it would be easy to just sit in front of a computer screen and write!  I type 130 words a minute!!!

But it's been one thing after another.  Good things!  We were successful in our same-sex marriage case!!  Judge Garcia wrote an amazing opinion and everyone is thrilled!  Of course the State of Florida has already appealed but I think even they have to see the writing on the wall.  So great to use your abilities to do something so great!

My cousins are back again!  They got here on Friday.  They actually came to do US a favor and I am thrilled they are here.

Everyone is okay for the most part.

Be back soon.

Friday, July 11, 2014


The end of a long, exhausting and exciting week!!!
 This week it is also my Friday face!!!

Dolphin Cove

Kaitlyn finished her last day today at Dolphin Cove summer camp here in Zkey Largo.

She spent a week with sea lions and dolphins.  She was so happy and had so much fun!  God I love this little girl.

She looks so grown up in this picture. Scary.


I have been so busy that I honestly have not made the time to blog lately.   Yet there is so much to blog ABOUT!


Wednesday, June 25, 2014


I am taken aback by the amount of "hate mail" I have been receiving regarding our same-sex marriage case.   The bigots and the bible thumpers......  the insecure and the scared..... Wow!!!  People saying that homosexuality can be "cured"!!  Sure, let's just go to some therapy.... that solves everything.

Being gay in this world is HARD.  The bigotry, rejection and outright hate has to be intolerable.  Yet these ignorant hate-mongers claim that it is a choice people make.  That it is "deviant behavior".  And these, for the most part, are the people who claim they believe in God.  Maybe there is more than one God?????  MY God loves everyone - he made us all perfect JUST AS WE ARE.  (Sorry for the caps but it infuriates me to read this shit!)

Last night the Attorney General for the State of Florida filed her Motion to Intervene in our case in order to "protect" Floridians stating that allowing same sex marriages will cause "great public harm".  Now, don't get me wrong, part of being an attorney is being creative - we are all good at it - or at least those of us that are any good at this job!!  LOL!!!  BUT - the allegation that allowing same sex marriages "will cause great public harm" goes beyond creativity and into the realm of the ridiculous.

Marriage, ladies and gentlemen, is no more than a contract between two consenting adults.  THAT'S IT.  How does being GAY alter the fact that you are a consenting adult with the right to enter into a contract?  What is it about this topic that causes so much HATE?  Really????  Why do people CARE?  How does it hurt them?

Viewed another way - over 60% of first marriages end in divorce.  Why can't our GLT friends be just as miserable as we are???????????  LOL!!!

Have an awesome day everyone.

Monday, June 16, 2014

Fighting for equal rights

Our law firm filed a complaint against the clerk of courts in the state of Florida for their refusal to issue a marriage license to two men in Monroe County.  Aaron and Lee, a gay couple living in Key West want to be married.  They have been together for 10 years now and want to formalize their relationship in the same way that any of us do.  Fla still does not recognize same-sex marriage.

So our law firm decided to represent them for free, and challenge what we believe is an unconstitutional ban which will not allow gay couples to marry.

I have such a hard time understanding this.  The gay community is not asking for special privileges. They are not asking for more rights than anyone else. All they are asking for is equality.  All the are asking for is the opportunity to marry someone they love, which will afford them the same protections and rights as anyone else who is married in this country.

Not only is it a constitutional right to be married, it is also a human right. Why we choose to relegate the gay community to an emotional corner; why we are all so occupied with who somebody loves, who he/she wants to be will always be a mystery to me.  How does it hurt the heterosexual community? How does it hurt anyone?

The same Bible stompers who yell out "one man one woman", are the ones going out and cheating on their spouses or molesting small children.  Those churchgoers that think themselves holier than thou because they attend church every Sunday, are the ones cheating on their taxes and filing for divorce at an unprecedented rate.   What makes them better than anyone else?

It cracks me up when people start yelling about how sodomy is illegal and against the laws of God.  These are the same men who beg their wives for it or who pay prostitutes for it.  Is it illegal for heterosexuals to participate in sodomy? If not, then why is it illegal for a gay couple to do so?

So we filed the complaint against the state of Florida…. 

None of us in our office are gay, but that is not the point.  Why shouldn't everyone who lives in this country be afforded the same rights? And besides, why shouldn't the gay community be as miserable as a heterosexual community in being married?  

This past weekend was the gay pride event in Key West.  I had never been to one before and I was truly moved by all the stories that I heard.  Men and women who have been together longer than most marriages, but who had to deal with prejudice and hatred just because they love someone.  How can that be okay?  Why do they have to justify who they are or who they love?

My law firm was invited to participate in the parade. We had such a great time.  Our entire female staff wore veils in recognition of marriage.  It was a great event.

These kinds of challenges, the challenge to make life equal for everyone, is what I went to law school for.

That is me in the middle with my partners, Bernadette and Jessica.
Our office manager Mary and Barbara, our legal assistant.

My cousins, the ones visiting me from Cuba, were at the parade also.  My cousin Sarah actually rode in the car with us.  They were so amazed to see the kind of freedom that we have in this country, which they do not have in Cuba. It is so sad that our biases don't let US appreciate the freedom that we have.